Learn How To Criticize Constructively And Nicely







Article written by Spynaija and its worth reading and learning from



Merriam Webster Dictionary defines “criticism” as “a critical observation or remark, the act of criticizing usually unfavourably”.

 Have you ever had an experience when someone told you how fat you’ve suddenly become? Or Maybe your boss had commented on how bad your work turned out to be?. Maybe you’ve heard from other folks how people view you as proud and unapproachable type?

It Hurts, doesn’t it?

Believe it or not, some people can be so undiplomatic that they are not even aware when they’ve hurt anyone’s feelings, that’s the receiving parties, especially the sensitive ones, they’ll be offended by their remarks, of which can eventually result in conflicts and arguments.

Your primary thoughts might be to help them maybe keep their lifestyle or health on check, but would they realize your good intentions instead of feeling hurt by your blunt comments or remark?

They might probably think you’re impolite. But what can you do if you really need to profess an honest criticism, but you’re afraid of hurting others’ feelings?

Now Here’s the secret

All you have to do is sandwich your negative comment between two positive remarks.
For example, your best friend Bassey is going on his very first date. He’s all excited and desirous to go. You know Bassey doesn’t have any fashion sense. He’s wearing a bland shirt with an old jeans. You know quite well how he hates to admit faults. So what will you do to save Bassey from an embarrassing first date?

Would you say out-rightly to him that the outfit he’s wearing is appalling? That would hurt his ego.

Well, you can first commend him on the things you like in his overall appearance. Comment on his well-groomed hair. Ask him where he bought his perfume because it can literally attract women like bees to honey. Be very sincere and honest.

Then, insert in a nice and suave approach your point of view and advice. You can tell him something like:

“Your shirt looks very nice Bassey, Since this is your very first date, I think Beky (his date) will be much more impressed if you would wear something like the outfit that you wore on my birthday. You look irresistible when you put on clothes like that.”

Afterwards, make another positive statement. You could say something like:

“You would definitely portray a big impression on Beky. She would fall heads over heels over your nice appearance and cheery personality. Have a great time on your date, Bassey.”

Do you think Bassey would be offended by such a nice comments? You have wittingly inserted a slightly negative feedback into a plethora of acceptable and ego-boosting remarks.

Generally, People love compliments, They believe they’ve got the caliber. They want other people to magnify the abilities they believe to possess. People like to hear others talk about their greatness and qualities, and they’ll be very glad if other people would know about it.

So if you intend to criticize anybody, remember to laud him/her first. It will leave a positive impression that you’re a nice guy. Then say what you have to say, but in a nice and non-offensive approach. Finalize with another positive remark to set a pace for amity.



Learn How To Criticize Constructively And Nicely Learn How To Criticize Constructively And Nicely Reviewed by Kola Oyewole on May 03, 2019 Rating: 5

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